I’m sure you’ve heard the terms the “good silverware” or the “good dishes” in relation to someone’s home, and then of course, it’s the “good stuff”, which usually refers to jewelry of some kind. What are we saving all of the “good” things for?
At some point around the holidays, my husband suggested we use the “good silverware” and I simply replied by asking which was the bad silverware? What makes one occasion better than another, and what are we saving it all for? I have memories of going to my grandparents’ apartment about 45 years ago and every time I sat on the couch, the back of my legs stuck to the plastic. It covered a purple couch, and when I asked why the plastic was on it, I remember my grandmother saying they were saving the couch for special occasions.
Well, I’m not sure how you feel, but as I have gotten older, I define the special times a bit differently than I used to. There are moments, random moments that just happen, and moments like that are so much more appreciated at this age than they used to be. It could be a cold winter night by the fireplace or a summer day by the lake. I think feeling content and happy, even if just for a moment, is the special time. And, if you are lucky enough to enjoy the company of your family and/or good friends, that makes it even more special.
So, if I want to use it, wear it or eat off it, I no longer wait for the right time. This is the right time!
With this new-found freedom come many new options.
I enjoy setting the table and making it fun, regardless of the number of people I am having, using the good candles, plates and silverware and/or mixing it all up with the not-so-good.
And then, of course, there is the “special” piece of jewelry. With a little creativity you will find many not-so-special times to wear it.
I have several rings that belonged to my grandmother, a few real stones, a few not so real, a few I sized, a few I have found a couple of creative ways to wear.
Thread the scarf through the ring and watch your scarf change from ordinary to one that pops your outfit.
What about all of those old buttons from vintage clothing that no longer exists? They make beautiful pendants and/or charms on one of the extra chains or cords you have in your closet.
Or the older earrings that have clasps and clip on to your earlobes? I’m not sure about you, but I can wear those for about five minutes before my ear starts throbbing, so I found a much better use for them. Take one, clip it on a chain and you have a pendant. You can even clip them on a scarf as an alternative to the ring I mentioned earlier.
Then there is the vintage coat all the way in the back of the closet. It also happens to be a man’s coat. Well, if you like it enough (and this one happens to be Gucci suede, about 45 years old), have it tailored for you. I never even took the waist in; I preferred it as a wrap and I can tell you it’s very rarely in the closet anymore!
And the special dress, you know the one you bought for the wedding, barmitzvah, New Year’s party or whatever else you needed the dress for – wear it again! Be spontaneous!
If we have learned anything from todays fashion experts, it’s that anything goes. Doesn’t being able to wear white in winter prove that?
This dress from DVF is a perfect example. I bought it for my son’s Barmitzvah, which also happened to be a couple of weeks after a surgery I had. So I knew how comfortable it was but hated the idea of saving it for another occasion, so I didn’t. I wear this if I’m going out for an evening and I have brought it to the beach with me and wore it with chunky jewelry and flip-flops. In my opinion, a wrap dress is one of the most comfortable things you can wear.
And the rhinestone choker which my grandmother wore over 60 years ago, goes great with jeans.
So, bottom line: stop saving it. If you want to use it or wear it, do so. It’s up to us to know when it feels special, any moment on any given day. You don’t need anyone’s permission.
If you had a particularly good day and want a glass of the “special” wine, open it and pour it in the “special” glass – you’ve earned it!
If you have any good stories about when your ‘vintage’ came out, Please share in the comments below.